Far be it from me to try and tell people what to write on their social networking sites, Lord knows I share too darn much sometimes. However, people should probably learn, no, accept that humans by nature gossip. They especially also love other people's misery.
So if you frequently make posts about various dumb decisions, retract on them, do them again, and repeat in a cycle, why are you then posting angry statuses for other people to mind their own business? You presented a train wreck. People love train wrecks. They will view, and formulate their own opinions and then share with their friends the train wreck in progress. And people tend to, if they have the means, go straight to the conductor of the train and tell them what they would do differently.
It's one of those common sense things people don't ever want to think about. And Heaven forbid you're straight up with people with tough well intentioned words. More or less if someone close to you says something you consider foul, they're telling you to your face what is being said behind your back...based on things you've shared publicly for many people to see.
Obviously I've only been inspired to write this due to a huge influx of cringe worthy facebook activity. For me, I'll try and keep to mostly musing about the world around me.
Tuesday, January 17, 2012
Thursday, November 3, 2011
Gummies!!
I really wish I had the talents and supplies to make my own gummy bears/worms or what have you. This stuff is so comforting, and yet so unfulfilling on an appetite. At the same time eating gummies until you're no longer hungry would probably make you sick.
So I'll just eat them four ounces at a time.
So I'll just eat them four ounces at a time.
Wednesday, September 21, 2011
Wednesday, June 22, 2011
very angry
Haven't seen one of my best friends much this year, in fact, just ONCE since he and his girlfriend got together in January.
The only time I've seen him? He stopped by to sell my dad a PSP.
I was getting the vibe he was with one of THOSE kind of girls when he missed the SUPER BOWL a week or so after they got together (he's a MAJOR football fan) to go to a children's birthday party of one of the friends of the woman's kid. Yeah with her not even a week and a half and he's going with her and the kid to other kids' birthday parties.
Well, it gets worse.
My sister is officially OUT of the Army, and beginning to get her stuff together to come home. She's been friends with my bud too for nearly ten years. Totally platonic friends (though while in the army they discussed a possible relationship one day, but never beyond discussion).
Apparently sis expressed to him she can't wait to hang out when she gets home, as they are GREAT friends.
He can't. His girlfriend wouldn't like it. I'm so pissed.
One, you're already depriving me of one of my nearest and dearest friends.
Two, you're depriving my SISTER, a WAR veteran, of one of her nearest and dearest friends.
THREE, you're suggesting my sister would make a move on him even though he has a girlfriend.
Four, my fiancee' misses hanging out with this friend too, and I'm wondering if this girl is preventing THAT from happening.
My fiancee and this friend used to hang out with each other, sans me, before he got with this girl. Now she doesn't even hear from him.
Hell we don't even see the dude on freaking facebook anymore. And he was a daily updater!
I want my friend to be happy, but before he got with her, he was so desperate for a relationship I think he just is so happy to have a female life form in his life, the hell with everything else.
I'm so mad. Just not really DIRECTLY mad at him, or his girl, just at the situation itself.
Also, very very sad because now I'm wondering if she's going to let him serve in my wedding. A little selfish, but this is my blog, so eff it.
The only time I've seen him? He stopped by to sell my dad a PSP.
I was getting the vibe he was with one of THOSE kind of girls when he missed the SUPER BOWL a week or so after they got together (he's a MAJOR football fan) to go to a children's birthday party of one of the friends of the woman's kid. Yeah with her not even a week and a half and he's going with her and the kid to other kids' birthday parties.
Well, it gets worse.
My sister is officially OUT of the Army, and beginning to get her stuff together to come home. She's been friends with my bud too for nearly ten years. Totally platonic friends (though while in the army they discussed a possible relationship one day, but never beyond discussion).
Apparently sis expressed to him she can't wait to hang out when she gets home, as they are GREAT friends.
He can't. His girlfriend wouldn't like it. I'm so pissed.
One, you're already depriving me of one of my nearest and dearest friends.
Two, you're depriving my SISTER, a WAR veteran, of one of her nearest and dearest friends.
THREE, you're suggesting my sister would make a move on him even though he has a girlfriend.
Four, my fiancee' misses hanging out with this friend too, and I'm wondering if this girl is preventing THAT from happening.
My fiancee and this friend used to hang out with each other, sans me, before he got with this girl. Now she doesn't even hear from him.
Hell we don't even see the dude on freaking facebook anymore. And he was a daily updater!
I want my friend to be happy, but before he got with her, he was so desperate for a relationship I think he just is so happy to have a female life form in his life, the hell with everything else.
I'm so mad. Just not really DIRECTLY mad at him, or his girl, just at the situation itself.
Also, very very sad because now I'm wondering if she's going to let him serve in my wedding. A little selfish, but this is my blog, so eff it.
Sunday, June 19, 2011
Better than love?
You know, when my lady tells me she loves me, it makes me smile, I get that cliche' warm and fuzzy feeling and life is just peachy. But I mean I know she loves me, she knows I love her. Sometimes it feels like we say it out of habit. We don't DOUBT our love for each other, but sometimes the words do become routine. But at least when we say it, we do mean it. Some people use it so casually it's sickening.
I've had many a girl drop the "L" word on me well before I was comfortable with it and it usually had disastrous results. As far as our proper exclusive relationship goes, it was probably used between us earlier than I would have normally approved, and it surprised a lot of people I was expressing love for her so early on. But when facing facts, MONTHS prior to becoming boyfriend and girlfriend, we'd been hanging out all the time, our friendship was so strong. I knew when we started dating that I had a loyal partner. And I quickly realized that I did love her, which did stun her, even if the feeling was mutual.
The point of all this?
There's a phrase that is under used I think in relationships. She said it to me the other day and it warmed me more than the "I love you" does lately (and I'm not trying to say our love is complacent. Trust me, our love is very strong). She was chatting with one of her guy friends and he said something, recounted a story in his personal life, that offended her sensibilities.
When she called me, she wanted to tell me what her friend told her, but she prefaced it with this, "Baby, I appreciate you SO much."
"I appreciate you."
Think about that.
A person can drop love on just about anyone, family, friends, coworkers, (ideally) a romantic partner. But how many of them people can you really say you APPRECIATE? It's easy to love. It's a little more difficult to appreciate someone because after a while you just start taking them for granted. It's usually only at funerals do we realize how much we actually appreciated someone, and then, it's too late.
At least I know if I get hit by a car tomorrow, she not only still loves me, she does indeed appreciate me and all that I am.
I didn't DOUBT her appreciation, but it was still nice to hear it from her. I expect a daily "I love you." The "I appreciate you" was like a surprise visit at work with cupcakes.
Anyway, I always encourage people saying to let each other know you love them, but you know maybe I need to remind people to express their appreciation to each other as well.
I've had many a girl drop the "L" word on me well before I was comfortable with it and it usually had disastrous results. As far as our proper exclusive relationship goes, it was probably used between us earlier than I would have normally approved, and it surprised a lot of people I was expressing love for her so early on. But when facing facts, MONTHS prior to becoming boyfriend and girlfriend, we'd been hanging out all the time, our friendship was so strong. I knew when we started dating that I had a loyal partner. And I quickly realized that I did love her, which did stun her, even if the feeling was mutual.
The point of all this?
There's a phrase that is under used I think in relationships. She said it to me the other day and it warmed me more than the "I love you" does lately (and I'm not trying to say our love is complacent. Trust me, our love is very strong). She was chatting with one of her guy friends and he said something, recounted a story in his personal life, that offended her sensibilities.
When she called me, she wanted to tell me what her friend told her, but she prefaced it with this, "Baby, I appreciate you SO much."
"I appreciate you."
Think about that.
A person can drop love on just about anyone, family, friends, coworkers, (ideally) a romantic partner. But how many of them people can you really say you APPRECIATE? It's easy to love. It's a little more difficult to appreciate someone because after a while you just start taking them for granted. It's usually only at funerals do we realize how much we actually appreciated someone, and then, it's too late.
At least I know if I get hit by a car tomorrow, she not only still loves me, she does indeed appreciate me and all that I am.
I didn't DOUBT her appreciation, but it was still nice to hear it from her. I expect a daily "I love you." The "I appreciate you" was like a surprise visit at work with cupcakes.
Anyway, I always encourage people saying to let each other know you love them, but you know maybe I need to remind people to express their appreciation to each other as well.
Saturday, June 18, 2011
I'll never grow up thanks to Netflix
Due in part to my discovery that I can get Season 1 of Beavis and Butthead, Seasons 1-14 of South Park, and Lord knows what else on Netflix, I will forever be amused, and never have to progress in mature video viewing.
I just wish Netflix would get the ball rolling on everything else I like watching and put that on instant too. Man needs his Thundercats.
I wonder why a DVD set of M.A.S.K. has never materialized. Now THAT was a fun cartoon.
I just wish Netflix would get the ball rolling on everything else I like watching and put that on instant too. Man needs his Thundercats.
I wonder why a DVD set of M.A.S.K. has never materialized. Now THAT was a fun cartoon.
Tuesday, June 14, 2011
Will never understand
I've found most blogging is done out of venting due to dissatisfaction in life, and that's fair, I'd guess. Most of my blogging in the day was due to the trials and tribulations, mostly with women, that I encountered. As I stand here in 2011 though, I don't have problems in the social scene. I have a woman who I plan to spend the rest of my life with, love her oh so dearly, and she loves me. I have a great circle of friends. I have a job I enjoy most of the time and coworkers I generally get along with.
That said, I'm not happy 24/7, and it's not anything anyone did, I just take a look at the state of the world and it gets me down.
I talked to an old friend of mine recently. He's sadly going through marital discourse, due to nothing he did. This is a guy who'll give you the shirt off his back, just the nicest guy ever. He's not changed in 12 years. They've been married a pretty good amount of time so it's not like he suddenly turned into Henry VIII on her. But apparently, she left him for someone else.
And it's not just this one guy. I was a nerd in high school (ok so I still am) and as a result I tended to hang with similarly afflicted people. So many of my "nice guy" friends, now approaching our 30s, STILL are having women problems. And it's not like they're being jerks to women, beating them, cheating on them, or anything.
And please, reader, do not take this to be a misogynistic rant, far from it. They are days when I'll say I RATHER hang with females because I can't take anymore fart jokes from my guy friends.
I know women like "bad" guys. They like that adventure and everything. But at some point doesn't that biological instinct of needing a man to produce babies and be a good father kick in?
Many relationships make it, and God bless them. Many relationships fail too. And it just seems lately a lot of NICE guys are getting shafted as a result. Not much I can do for them either. I'm at that age where I've got my lady, we're happy...and most of our other friends are married with kids too. I don't really know that many single girls to introduce my friends too. So I can't even really help other than doing what I already do, be there for them. That's rewarding, yes, but I'm a guy that likes to actually DO stuff for people.
I'm no where near a shrink, but I just can't help but wonder what goes through people's minds these days. I guess I'm mostly just angry thinking about how happy I was for these guys and girls when I found out they were together. In the two cases off the top of my head that I'm thinking of I said to myself, on BOTH, "Great! He's a wonderful guy and will take care of her, and Thankfully she has a good guy for her because she's liable to have wound up with a jerk."
Maybe some women want to wait until their 40s before they find a decent man. I guess that's their business, but they don't need to be breaking innocent hearts in the process.
The divorce rate in this country is staggering. And yeah, some marriages just need to end, no doubt about that at all. Just with the knowledge that is out there, and people know in their hearts what kind of person they are. Why waste someone's time if you're just going to treat a married relationship like a junior high relationship, having a new boyfriend for each month's dance?
People liked to make comments within the first couple of months of me and my lady's relationship about how we needed to get married. Just jump right in and get married after 2 months. Hey that might work for some people (looking at statistics, not many), but I'm glad her and I have taken the path we have taken.
Are me and my lady perfect? Probably not to a 3rd party perspective, but we're perfect for each other and that is all we need. I have more confidence in her and I than I do for anyone else. Maybe it's naive of me, but I'd be mortally SHOCKED (barring tragedy) if anything ever came between us. I've seen her and I get pretty mad at each other, mostly due to pride, and within a very short amount of time we're hugging and expressing our love. We communicate all the time. How many of these people communicate I wonder.
I could expound more on my 2 nameless friends, but I'd like to offer them anonymity. Plus I don't have ALL the details. I just know, from my perch, 2 great guys are nursing broken hearts, and I blame their ex partners.
Maybe my next blog will take a look at the guys that don't appreciate good girls, just to be fair and balanced. Lord knows I don't want my blog to be Fox News...
That said, I'm not happy 24/7, and it's not anything anyone did, I just take a look at the state of the world and it gets me down.
I talked to an old friend of mine recently. He's sadly going through marital discourse, due to nothing he did. This is a guy who'll give you the shirt off his back, just the nicest guy ever. He's not changed in 12 years. They've been married a pretty good amount of time so it's not like he suddenly turned into Henry VIII on her. But apparently, she left him for someone else.
And it's not just this one guy. I was a nerd in high school (ok so I still am) and as a result I tended to hang with similarly afflicted people. So many of my "nice guy" friends, now approaching our 30s, STILL are having women problems. And it's not like they're being jerks to women, beating them, cheating on them, or anything.
And please, reader, do not take this to be a misogynistic rant, far from it. They are days when I'll say I RATHER hang with females because I can't take anymore fart jokes from my guy friends.
I know women like "bad" guys. They like that adventure and everything. But at some point doesn't that biological instinct of needing a man to produce babies and be a good father kick in?
Many relationships make it, and God bless them. Many relationships fail too. And it just seems lately a lot of NICE guys are getting shafted as a result. Not much I can do for them either. I'm at that age where I've got my lady, we're happy...and most of our other friends are married with kids too. I don't really know that many single girls to introduce my friends too. So I can't even really help other than doing what I already do, be there for them. That's rewarding, yes, but I'm a guy that likes to actually DO stuff for people.
I'm no where near a shrink, but I just can't help but wonder what goes through people's minds these days. I guess I'm mostly just angry thinking about how happy I was for these guys and girls when I found out they were together. In the two cases off the top of my head that I'm thinking of I said to myself, on BOTH, "Great! He's a wonderful guy and will take care of her, and Thankfully she has a good guy for her because she's liable to have wound up with a jerk."
Maybe some women want to wait until their 40s before they find a decent man. I guess that's their business, but they don't need to be breaking innocent hearts in the process.
The divorce rate in this country is staggering. And yeah, some marriages just need to end, no doubt about that at all. Just with the knowledge that is out there, and people know in their hearts what kind of person they are. Why waste someone's time if you're just going to treat a married relationship like a junior high relationship, having a new boyfriend for each month's dance?
People liked to make comments within the first couple of months of me and my lady's relationship about how we needed to get married. Just jump right in and get married after 2 months. Hey that might work for some people (looking at statistics, not many), but I'm glad her and I have taken the path we have taken.
Are me and my lady perfect? Probably not to a 3rd party perspective, but we're perfect for each other and that is all we need. I have more confidence in her and I than I do for anyone else. Maybe it's naive of me, but I'd be mortally SHOCKED (barring tragedy) if anything ever came between us. I've seen her and I get pretty mad at each other, mostly due to pride, and within a very short amount of time we're hugging and expressing our love. We communicate all the time. How many of these people communicate I wonder.
I could expound more on my 2 nameless friends, but I'd like to offer them anonymity. Plus I don't have ALL the details. I just know, from my perch, 2 great guys are nursing broken hearts, and I blame their ex partners.
Maybe my next blog will take a look at the guys that don't appreciate good girls, just to be fair and balanced. Lord knows I don't want my blog to be Fox News...
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